A message from the director ~ Stephenie Och
Working through trauma cannot be approached with a cookie cutter response. Everyone’s trauma is different just like everyone’s level of resilience is different. Healing may depend on a person’s support system, but it also depends on their ability to process difficult emotions and cope in this often-crazy world.
Many individuals find the arts to be a helpful recovery tool. Drawing or painting, creative writing or journaling, and dance or movement are just a few things that seem to work. I personally think it is something about the energy flow from holding something within your body to letting it out. Don’t be afraid to try something.
I don’t consider myself an artist, so the idea of drawing and painting terrifies me. However, I can see how the use of color to reflect one’s emotions could be significant. Journaling as a means to processing conflicting emotions may also be helpful. For me, a tool that I often find helpful is playing the piano. There is something about this activity that allows me to work through the difficult feelings I need to work through. Choosing the music, whether fast or slow, loud or soft, no matter the genre.
There is no right or wrong way to move forward after trauma. There is no timeline to follow. Healing often takes time. Find what works for you! And if you need more help with that, reach out– I’d love to hear from you.
A New Year – A New You by Barb Goodrich
Being motivated and inspired has a way of changing one’s outlook on life in a positive direction. Enriching your life with joy, purpose, connection and fulfillment will make the most of each day.
A positive attitude and determination can help you stay inspired and motivated to reach your goals – it’s never too late to start something new or try something different. Having this mindset will keep you productive and creative. In addition, having a strong sense of self-belief, optimism and inner drive can lead one to great things. It is important to remember to focus on the good, count your blessings and be grateful for the opportunities that life offers you.
2024 is the perfect time to make a commitment to love your body and mind by implementing new ideas for motivation and inspiration:
- Read a motivational book by choosing something that inspires you
- Make a list of the goals you want to achieve in the new year
- Listen to an inspirational podcast that resonates with you
- Start a journal by writing down what you are grateful for as this can help boost your motivation and inspire you to do more
- Take a yoga class as the benefits of exercise integrate the mind with the body
Surround yourself with positive people – the enthusiasm and positive energy they possess will help keep you motivated
And finally – don’t forget to share your motivation with others and be a source of inspiration for those around you!
January is Self-Love Month by Lyndsey Dimateo
It is not uncommon to get caught up in every day shenanigans and to put yourself on the back burner amid the chaos. This month is dedicated to prioritizing yourself and your health, both mental and physical. What does “self-love” look like? Well, it essentially means for you to be at your best, whatever that may look like for you. It is not just about loving yourself, but taking care of yourself, which may take some practice. So, here are some ideas to help you.
- Nourish your body! Nutrition plays a big role in your physical and mental wellbeing. Without nutrition, our bodies cannot perform at their best. Feeding your body what it needs to be at its best can improve your mood, your brain function and increase your body’s ability to manage stress.
- On top of feeding your body, feed your soul! Do things that make you feel good–whether that is listening to music, creating art, running, spending time with loved ones, reading, journaling, or even taking time to be alone—anything that brings you joy.
- Practice mindfulness! Live in the moment, pay attention and focus on your breathing. A great way to learn this skill is through meditation. Meditation has been proven to decrease symptoms of anxiety and depression, chronic pain, diseases, and high blood pressure. All you need is a few minutes each day. If this is new to you, go on YouTube and check out some videos.
- Positive affirmations! How you speak to yourself matters. Give yourself a compliment and talk to yourself as you would your best friend. Even if you do not believe it at first, still participate and give compliments. Your mind is much more powerful than you may realize. Ways to do this include, but are not limited to, looking at yourself in the mirror and make “I am…”, “I will…”, or “I can…” statements, write it down on sticky notes and put it in a place you will see/read it every day, give yourself a pep talk out loud, or repeat them in a mantra.
- Rest! Life today can be very busy, and you may feel pressure to constantly be busy or to make sure everything on your to-do list is crossed off. Know that it is ok to rest, and rest does not mean you are being lazy! Overworking or pushing yourself too much can negatively impact your health all around. It can even result in disrupted sleep, hypertension, and digestive issues.
As you can see, with self-love comes self-care. There are many ways in which someone can practice both. If you’d like a little guidance this month, check out ‘Just Breathe: A Guide to Wellness’ created by the Ohio Domestic Violence Network. This guide will help you get back to the basics, assist you with a self-care plan, and learn different coping strategies.
Wintertime Activities By Cassandra Ortiz
Minnesota winter weather is finally here and that means we will be spending more time indoors. Psychology Today states that the cold-weather months can present a unique set of stressors. Not only do people spend more time indoors than outside because it gets darker sooner, but they are also less likely to socialize or connect with others. This makes for a perfect opportunity to spend quality time with loved ones and to nurture that family bond. Taking time together as a family is important in a household as it can improve children and parents’ well-being, including physical and mental health.
To make the time more enjoyable, here are a few activities that you and your family members can do together:
- Clean out clothes and household goods that are no longer wanted and donate them to charity- this is a wonderful way for you and your family to give to those in need and to maintain a clean space.
- Cook a meal with each family member in charge of a different course- not only is it a perfect way to spend time with family members, but it allows for each member to help in the kitchen.
- Bake cookies- make holiday-themed cookies!
- Learn a new craft- make holiday crafts and use them to decorate the house.
- Do a movie marathon- have each family member pick out their favorite movie to watch.
- Hold a board game, card game, or video game tournament- a little competition is always fun!
- Play charades- pass the time laughing together as you try to act out terms.
- Volunteer at your community food pantry, soup kitchen, or church- you can make this a family tradition to help those in need during the chilly winter months.
It is important to keep those close relationships with family members and to take care of your mental health, especially during these times. I hope you utilize these ideas and have a wonderful winter and happy holidays!
Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month by Taylor Hernandez
Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month is nationally recognized during the month of February every year. Teen dating violence, also known as intimate partner violence or intimate relationship violence, is a serious problem in the U.S., affecting approximately 10% of all teenagers between the ages of 12 to 18. It includes stalking, harassment, physical and/or sexual abuse. (teendvmonth.org)
Dating violence victims are more likely to experience suicidal thoughts, antisocial behaviors, depression, and anxiety, and engage in unhealthy behaviors such as alcohol and drug use. This is a true problem, not just in big cities but in our own communities. It is estimated that 4,105 teens are victims of dating violence daily.
I have given presentations to teens in both Todd and Morrison counties about teen dating violence where we discuss what healthy and unhealthy relationship qualities or actions look like. We discuss what boundaries and consent are along with how to enforce those for themself, and, how to reach out for help if it is needed. Talking more openly about this subject could greatly help someone decide to reach out for help or get out of an unsafe situation. Education about teen dating violence could be a first step in hopefully ending teen dating violence.
Helpful Resources:
https://www.teendvmonth.org/category/resources/
https://www.loveisrespect.org/
International Women’s Day by Rocio Fernandez Lugo
International Women’s Day is a global day to celebrate women’s economic, political, and social advancements and highlight the steps that still need to be made to achieve gender parity. Held annually on March 8th, International Women’s Day grows every year, as women around the world pause to reflect and make plans for constructive change.
But how did the day begin? In February 1909, the foundations of International Women’s Day were laid in the form of a “Women’s Day” held in response to a large-scale New York City garment workers’ strike for better pay, shorter hours, improved working conditions, and voting rights.
Originally a national day marked in the USA, the idea quickly turned international. It was first adopted by European countries after, and today, International Women’s Day is an official holiday in several places and widely observed in many more. Depending on where you are, celebrations range from the giving and receiving of gifts to political demonstrations and protests. Here are some ways International Women’s Day is observed around the globe:
Argentina – Celebrated since the 1900s, Argentinians typically marked International Women’s Day by giving presents to the women in their lives. However, in recent years protests have become a regular feature, with citizens increasingly taking to the streets to demonstrate against violence, the still-present pay gap, equal representation in the arts, and other social changes.
Australia – Australians have marked International Women’s Day for decades, though marches have become particularly widespread since the early 1970s. The day itself plays out across the country with a variety of panel discussions, breakfasts, and events featuring prominent women in their fields, speaking publicly to call for more representation, equality, and diversity across the board.
Chile – The day is marked by marches through several cities, particularly Santiago the capital, with protesters likely wearing green handkerchiefs to symbolize their support of sexual and reproductive rights. Chants, drumming beats, and elaborate costumes are featured.
China – While Girl’s Day is March 7 in China, the country has recognized International Women’s Day since 1949. On March 8th employers are encouraged to give their female staff a half-day off. However, there’s also a strongly rooted commercial side to the day, in which men are encouraged to purchase presents for the women in their lives.
Italy – On March 8 women are traditionally given bunches of small yellow mimosas: the chosen symbol of International Women’s Day in this country. Also seen to symbolize female strength, it’s common for women to pass bouquets of mimosas to each other as a sign of female solidarity. Cakes and pasta are also created with vibrant yellow colors to resemble the flower!
Romania – In Romania, International Women’s Day is celebrated in a similar way to Mother’s Day, providing a reason for people, particularly men, to recognize their mothers, grandmothers, and friends with children by giving them cards and flowers.
Russia – Though the date has been an official national public holiday in Russia since 1918, its original meaning seems to have largely forgotten its political roots, instead, women are recognized in general terms through gift-giving.
Spain – After the unexpectedly large-scale success of the general strike in Spain in 2018 in which more than 5 million people walked out for 24 hours, the country continues to take to the streets. While a mass strike is not necessarily the focus of future International Women’s Days, the Spanish people are clear in their aim to increasingly focus on rights for women and girls.
United Kingdom – Held over three days in London, including International Women’s Day, the Women of the World festival features speakers, activists, and performers who come together to tackle the issues facing women globally. Founded in the UK, WOW now has sister festivals in other parts of the world, with discussions, talks, and exhibitions that intertwine and feed each other under one name.
United States – International Women’s Day is not an official holiday in the United States, though March is known as Women’s History Month; a period to call attention to women’s achievements throughout history both past and contemporary. On March 8th itself, capital cities host rallies, conferences, and business events bringing together conversation and thought leadership around the topic.
New Year’s Resolutions by Marilyn Bartell, Finance Coordinator
Well, the Holidays have come and went and now we all are thinking about our New Year’s resolutions. Some of us will think about how to improve our fitness. And some resolutions will be about eating healthier and maybe even losing weight or taking care of our mental health better. But others may be thinking about how to better handle their donations.
One thing that can help is by becoming a sustaining donor. Becoming a sustainer provides reliable support for the programs we offer and are relied upon by the people in Morrison and Todd counties. Your donations will automatically be deducted monthly from your credit card or debit card. You will save time, money and resources!
Please consider becoming a sustaining donor today. By giving only $10 a month you can help put a victim up for a night of emergency safe housing.
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